The Labour Room

Once upon a time I wanted to be a doctor but after a while I realized I loved writing better.

I enjoy watching thriller and horror movies and only recently found a horror movie that I could finally admit was the scariest I've seen this year (Insidious) but these movies never got to me because I knew they were not real life.

Here comes the reality

I won't consider this to be an experience fit for a horror movie but the fact that it was real made it scary.
Just seeing the instruments displayed on the table chilled my spine and they hadn't even started anything... they weren't even going to use them!

 watching someone dear to me in pain really scared me, I felt like the abdominal aches were transferred to mine and I started contracting, coupled with the thought that that might be me one day and all of a sudden even looking at the doctors gave me the prickly feeling that  I might not last the night. It became worse when I had to put on an encouraging smile so that I didn't freak out the mother to be and even that was a very hard task. I am sure she wondered  what the twisted frightened smiley  face was about but I hope it was comforting ( well, sort of)


I thought I would reach the climax of my fear when she was wheeled to the theatre so I opted out of being there and cuddled at a corner saying series of prayers and texting my feelings to some. when all was done and she was returned I was anxious and filled with worry but once I beheld that beautiful face I knew everything was okay and my fear vanished like it was never there.

I went into a labor room and experienced pain second hand (if I should call it pain at all) so I wonder how much pain she must have felt, however what struck me was how fast all that pain vanishes once you behold that beautiful creature; the smooth delicate skin, pearly eyes and tender feet not to mention the innocence that gives a gentle glow. A baby is truly a gift from God.

While I witnessed the early stages of labor  I was definitely sure I chose the right field and also developed wavering views about marriage and children but when I saw the baby I totally understood why women still decide to bear all that pain!

So I say CONGRATULATIONS to all new mothers, its not an easy task but it shows much more, not only the immense strength of a woman but also how one baby can take away all the pain you've ever felt. The reward truly overshadows  the suffering.

London from my Perspective

Apart from Johnny Depp being my favorite actor, I love musicals and London is a very good place to see the best shows in the world!

Here is London from my perspective.

• One can find history  in almost every building and these are preserved with greatest respect. The museums are very interesting and  must be visited! each museum tells a story worth knowing and sometimes it feels like 100 or 200 years past brought back to life!
• In my opinion, the average Englishman is quite broadminded and knows a bit of everything (the ones I've met at least). Some are also well cultured, they read widely, know how to play at least one musical instrument, one type of sport or speak at least a foreign language! I think this is a very good thing for us to try to emulate. Human beings are capable of doing so many things!  I heard a while ago that the genius Einstein probably used only about 10 percent of his brain! if that's true then I dread to think how much we've wasted our potentials!
• Although the dominance of Science and technology have caused many to lose faith in God, the very few who are still faithful worship straight from the heart and this is one major thing I have noticed. Although very few people go to church, the glow on the face of the 10 or a little more who go is one of struggle as a result of love, they practice true Christianity and one can be silently and sweetly drawn to God by their Christlike attributes, it makes one see that it is not the numbers in church that matter but the number of lives that are changed for the better

So although many might have been in and out of London a couple of times, there are still many interesting places and things to discover. I think that although its fun to go to Madame Tussuad's, The London Eye and Dorothy Perkins one could discover much more.

P.S: the first song in the video is kind of what I wanted but I'm no good at video editing lol!

My Country from My Perspective

I've been feeling nostalgic lately, this is the longest time I haven't seen my family  (7 months). I miss sitting on table on Sundays and racking my brain for the next religious/science/current affairs question my father would ask. I also miss the taste of dried peppered Kilishi and juicy Suya! the smell of fresh fried fish and the taste of Palm oiled starch and Banga Soup!

These are but a few things that keep me in love with my country, although we have a pretty bad reputation, I don't quite see myself settling anywhere else unless its not God's Will. In the past and recent times Nigerians have been labelled as crooks and criminals as a result of those who care less for morality nor human dignity and this has made it quite difficult for us as a whole to be trusted. Media is quick to judge our actions and many always have bad stories to tell about one or more places in the country. We all know the horrible things some of our kinsmen have done but I believe we have hope to redeem this sad reputation.

Our country is not all bad. Although it has its problems and issues, there are still a few good things:

• There is still some form of respect for elders. In my opinion we still honor the elderly and perceive their words as wise, the only thing we might need to work on is to understand that we can learn from any and everybody, a child can learn from the mother and the mother can definitely learn from the child. Many elders or people in authority get upset when someone lesser in rank or younger than they are points out important issues or corrects them in some form (not referring to being impolite). I do not think they should see it as a form of challenge to them, I believe a young man and his father can have a decent conversation and reason their opinions out without the elder feeling the young one is being disrespectful.
• a large majority of  Nigerians still believe in God and go to church! we still have a sense of God's existence in our lives and that is a major attribute. What we could work on is truly living our faith. A million people may go to church or pray for hours but if we do not love God and live in the way He wants our going to church becomes superficial.
• we have a sense of community. If a person is trying to steal from another person, someone around would definitely shout "ole! ole!" and strong hefty men would come out of nowhere to chase and deal with the culprit even to the extent that they overdo it. Also when you are driving I'm sure one must have spotted someone waving his arm out of the window shouting  to another person driving beside him and some times trying to get your attention, you see him pointing  and mouthing or shouting "your tyre! your tyre!" words are so often repeated that way. There is also a form of family bond, although it could be worked on a bit, parents still try to spend time with their children and children still communicate with parents plus every family friend and relation is called "uncle" or "aunty". This is a very good trait we have and I pray we keep it (well, not exactly the "uncle" and "aunty" part lol)
• Nigerians are happy people! with the state of the country people still find ways to make themselves feel good from countless sewing of Aso Ebi and going for many parties to normal games like "ten ten" and "suwe". An average Nigerian always looks for ways to make his life better, to search for happiness and joy, he constantly refuses to be melancholic and that in my opinion is a wonderful thing. We could just try not to achieve happiness at the expense of others and try to be morally and spiritually upright which are the keys to true happiness!

So we are not all bad and our country isn't either. We have our few perks like other countries do and like other countries we can do something about it. We cannot look to our government, system nor our leaders to form a good reputation for ourselves. Although life is not all about having a good name but we could give ourselves some self respect, if we want change we have to be the change by changing ourselves. In this way we touch many lives without our knowing it which could affect our country as a whole and make it a better place so that through faith and hope, it shall be.