You know when you’ve been planning your perfect wedding in
your head, you work towards doing exactly what’s in there, you’re making
progress, then people get in the way… in fact, VENDORS get in the way!
Why can’t vendors just deliver? They promise you Heaven on
Earth, their mouth is sweet to give you big price but when the time comes they
show themselves! If not for my wedding planner I would have… in fact ehn… let
me just calm down.
It was God who picked my love; it was very difficult to
choose him at the time because I had many suitors who pointed towards marriage
so I was at a point where I just had to pray for God to show me the way and He selected
the best of them all!
Our parents got along very well and luckily my mother-in-law
made it clear to all that the wedding was my own and whatever I said should be
done! It was so heart-warming and quite a relief to hear that from her because
I was then sure I wouldn’t have any major family problems as my mum too felt
the same way.
My wedding colour was themed 50 shades of Blue (catchy
right?) and coincidentally blue was in that season so nobody had any excuse not
to come dressed in it. I didn’t even mind my bridal train dressed in the same
colour, in fact my reception dress was going to be in Blue as well and I was
sure the different shades would give the hall a really cool look!
Planning started off quickly as I made the best choice of
making my close friend the wedding planner, she was very efficient and had
everything sorted on time. She knew exactly what I wanted so I didn’t really
stress myself, I was quite calm all the way. I wasn’t going to break the bank
so we cut costs on a lot of things and got good deals for others, this thoroughly
convinced me that you can get all you want for your wedding with a small
budget.
There was no hitch as such and this was quite comforting. All
I needed to do was call, ask how far and everything was fine. After a while I
didn’t pay much attention to wedding prep and focused more on work (there’s
life after wedding) but mehn, would you believe I forgot to order my wedding
dress and accessories? I totally forgot that was not a wedding planner job! I
had to sort that out about 2 weeks to the wedding then I remembered I had to
also make sure the bridal party was sorted too.
Two weeks to wedding day is definitely too short a time to
sort out bridal apparel, I started feeling the stress going from shop to shop
looking for the perfect dress. My consolation for the wahala was that I ordered
the dresses for my bridal train on time so I didn’t think that would be a
problem and to ease stress I decided to get them closer to the day…
Big bad massive mistake!
5 days to my wedding and bridal dresses were not ready! I
wanted to break somebody’s head (the tailor!). When it was finally finished it
was horrible! Terrible! I was already drained by having to visit each
bridesmaid to fit, only to see that the dresses were either too big or too
small! Didn’t this woman take measurements? Was she sleeping? At this point I
was as hot as a boiling pot! I stormed to the tailor’s cried and yelled at her! All
she could do was beg me to “no vex” as if “no vex” will re-sew the dresses and
get them ready by Saturday! Sadly I had to get another set made somewhere else
on express, imagine the money I would have saved.
The clothes drama was too overwhelming for me so I really
hoped for a smooth wedding day but sadly fate had other plans. I really wanted
to see my fiancé take one of the readings at mass so I did everything possible
to get ready on time on the day. Only for me to rush to the car and find them
still decorating it. I wanted to find other means of transport but they kept
saying they were almost done. They were almost done made me 15 mins late to
church! I got there after all the readings, I couldn’t even do a proper walk
down the aisle and my hubby wasn’t even smiling. It was so upsetting, I wanted
to just start crying. I started thinking maybe I should have paid more
attention to plans and detail, the wedding planner can only do so much. I
wished I could turn back the hands of time especially for the church but life
is not considerate like that. At least once my love saw me proper he smiled and
held my hand tightly, that one was ok for me and I took it as a form of
understanding and comfort.
We did the regular taking of pictures after mass and headed
off to the reception. See me see trouble oh! When we got there they refused to
let us in, they said we hadn’t paid the balance for the hall, something that we
spent almost a whole day doing till we paid! They said they dint see it, omo!
My husband charged! He yelled at them to better open the hall, the guy was
still there speaking Phonetics till my hubby stormed out of the car to go and
open the hall door. When the manager saw commotion was when she knew she would
come and find out what was happening, she confirmed we had paid and apologised
for the mix up. This just kept me wondering where this other guy came from.
Anyway, he was definitely not important on my big day.
The décor was not as magical as I expected it to be but it
was ok, I was happy some people put the effort to come in my dress code and
just sighed at those who didn’t even try, besides I had had enough drama in one
day to start thinking of guests like that, I just wanted to have fun and go to
my new home. Although there were some mishaps many things made up for it; the
DJ was too on point giving us jams from the past, present and future, the food
flowed well and drinks kept everyone very happy, the reception was so much fun
that my mum had to beg the DJ to stop playing because people refused to go
home, they were still dancing at past 8 and were ready to turn the hall into a
club!
At last the guests decided to continue the party in their
various homes and I was whisked away to a lovely hotel weekend getaway with my
husband. The day went so well that it felt like nothing happened.
My advice to brides to be is GET A SENSIBLE TAILOR! CHECK
YOUR DRESSES AT LEAST 1 MONTH BEFORE WEDDING! And yeah, BUY WEDDING DRESS ON
TIME
If not you would become a screaming bridezilla like me!
