Are Women Truly Free?

As I have said in an earlier post , I'm kind of feminist but not in the modern sense of the word, I believe women should be given a chance to let their voices be heard, they should be treated with equal dignity as the men are because they have equal rights as human beings, women are not possessions nor toys! WE ARE MORE THAN THAT!
Now comes  the issue at hand, like I said I do not totally support modern femininity because in my opinion it mocks the true meaning of women's liberation or women's self worth for the following reasons:
1. Are women truly made free with laws that favour abortion? ( for those of you who know me well, I am pro- life and this is a very important issue for me). Okay, a woman is raped (in some cases by  her own relatives) and left with child or she sleeps with her boyfriend/husband and finds out she is pregnant. For a single girl to be pregnant is a taboo in most countries and society as a whole has a way of looking at the woman in scorn forgetting it takes two to tango meaning that the man is also involved, society can be quite hypocritical sometimes. However, My grouse here is this; is it the child's fault she is pregnant? should she take it out on the child? Many people claim that once the child is in his  mother's womb he/she does not have rights (a human being is in there!). Do we honestly think this is true? How were we all born? didn't we all have to develop for nine months or is there an alternative means of doing this in order to be protected by the government? does this make a woman truly free? there are so many questions that need to be answered. This process only causes pain and trauma for the woman. We possess motherly characteristics which help us take care of children, a mother develops a strong bond with the child in her womb  and I'm pretty sure she would definitely feel some form of regret ( not matter how small) or pain after abortion. So abortion puts a woman in a prison of regret and pain, it does not make her free, what makes her free is her decision not to engage in any sexual activity she does not want, not being forced into such by her husband or boyfriend or rapist! if she wants to engage in such then it is her choice as well but she as a woman should be strong enough to face the consequences of her actions. The government should do something about the crime and make sure the woman and her child are safe, probably compensate her. She doesn't have to keep the child and that is why there are foster homes. It is not the baby's fault.
2. I have often been mesmerised by the saying "if you've got it, flaunt it!" I probably have done so myself a couple of times. Showing off ones assets sometimes makes one feel confident but in the long run would we say it makes us free?
Vulgarity brings nothing but trouble in most cases. We dress according to how comfortable we feel. If one wants to go out stark naked who are we to stop her? she is free isn't she? of course most women don't but most of us do leave very little to the imagination when we dress. I might sound very prudish at this point but I have come to realise dressing in such a way does not make a woman free. If a man is attracted to a woman mainly by what he sees what makes one think he would not be more attracted to the woman who has better assets? and so the world of a woman becomes one big competition; how to attract the most guys and the girls who cannot keep up wallow in misery and insecurity. Is that freedom? A woman in my opinion is by far more than what she wears, it is her intriguing character that draws people close to her, it is that uniqueness she possesses! dressing in an inappropriate manner only brings chains and regret which includes rape, dating the wrong guy and being in the wrong crowd. what we wear does not define us and I believe one can be modest and still very fashionable.
Being vulgar does not make a woman free, in my opinion it looks like a desperate search to be noticed, the saying our mothers tell us is so true "a lady is seen not heard" a woman's mannerisms are what make her noticed by all and not by how aggressive she is.
I believe women will definitely be recognized positively in this world but it will only come if we redefine what we call " femininity"

Why girls fall for "Jerks"

Through careful observation and a bit of experience I have come to the conclusion that girls like "Jerks" for the following reasons.....
Okay let me define the word "Jerk"
In my own words: A jerk is a guy who has an Ego ten times his size, due to this most things he does are for his benefit and mostly his benefit alone, once he has accomplished his "task" with one lady, he moves to the other most times leaving a trail of broken hearts which he cares less about. He really doesn't have manners and can be very rude. However a jerk is usually very good looking, very friendly and also quite romantic (that is when he is in mission mode) he could be genuinely nice sometimes but its hard to decipher and lastly he could be quite generous ( also mostly in mission mode)
 I think I should define a gentleman, this most girls deserve but most times don't fall for.
In my own words: A gentleman is a guy who is decent and principled, usually quite smart, could also be good looking. sometimes romantic and knows how to treat a lady. often shy or just laid back. When he falls in love its usually genuine but gets his heart broken sometimes by a girl who chooses a jerk over him, however a gentleman could also be quite proud especially if his looks get into his head.

Now, here are the plausible reasons:

1. Girls like affection. It is believed that girls are emotionally "triggered" by what they hear than by what they see, meaning if a guy tells a girl she is pretty she is likely to notice that guy and jerks are very good at flattery! A gentle man might not be quick to give compliments, he might just admire without compliment either because he is too shy or thinks he would be too forward.
2. Jerks are go getters! when they want something they go for it, be it for fun or the real deal. when a jerk is on a mission to get a girl he would be bold and very hardworking. He would find out all the background info he could get on the "subject" and use it to his advantage. Gentlemen are not as hardworking as these guys, in fact they are very lazy! when they see a girl they like, they admire her from a distance or they wait for her to make the first move or they just watch the jerk have her!
3. Jerks are very nice, its one of their irresistible characteristics! they are usually the first to start an interesting  conversation and they are usually fun to be with. They also probably have a good sense of humor. Gentlemen could have a good sense of humor but are not always the first to start a conversation
4. Hmm... jerks have MANNERS! ironic isn't it? however this is usually when they are in mission mode, they would open the door for you, walk you wherever, take you anywhere, carry your luggage, give you their jacket when it is cold... and the list goes on but when they're either accomplished or tired its the reverse. Gentlemen could do this but most times forget to.
5. Jerks reply messages! they reply and frequently keep in touch as well   ( this also depends on where you stand with him) they could call as many times as you want and reply even the silliest of messages! gentlemen don't reply as much as jerks do, they forget its courtesy to reply even the silliest message. Silly in this context  doesn't mean stupid tho (lol)
6. Jerks are quite generous! they are ready to spend and spend till they get what they want, gold diggers beware! Gentlemen spend when necessary.
Jerks don't hesitate to express their feelings, they are very good at this, sometimes too forward but this gets the girl anyway, gentle men don't and usually act very weird to the girl they might fancy, they could even be quite rude (ironic isn't it?)
7. Jerks are cool! they are quite attractive and appealing, they usually have better fashion sense than gentlemen in some cases.

A guy could be both a gentleman and a jerk (in fact there are a lot of this kind) depending on the situation but girls mostly go for a jerk- like guy because he is more expressive, sad isn't it? sometimes a girl even forgets she deserves better but then again the gentlemen are mostly lazy, LAzy, LAZY!

Dear Jerks, your girls deserve better, remember what goes around comes around, girls can be bitches too! (excuse my French)

Dear Gentlemen, please WAKE UP! you don't know what you've got until you've lost it, don't just stand there, GO FOR IT!

Dear Girls, Ladies, NEVER settle for a Jerk! you deserve better, don't worry the gentleman will come around.