Mirror, mirror on the Wall

Mirror, mirror on the wall... Who am I?

Thursday 27 October 2011

Nigeria: in pictures

Following my previous post on my country from my perspective, I shall share with you some of my favorite scenes...






University Corridors



Lagos at Night






Marina, Lagos





The Pitch (my Favorite)





The Nigerian cutie







Ikoyi Lagoon





The toothed car shows how some Nigerians like to show themselves





Sweet





About to Rain






Nostalgia






Our special Nigerian Sun and its Nigerian Heat






Lagos Island Hustle and Bustle



And there you have it... from the positive angle :-)













Wednesday 26 October 2011

I saw a Rainbow!!!!

I have to admit I like walking, I love to feel the wind glide through my skin and feast my eyes with the wonders of nature. I also love to clear my head and fill it with inspiration from the sweet sounds of  birds or the gentle sway of  grass  or the silence of open space. Its a very refreshing feeling, quite good for improving ones total well being.

I took a nice walk (and beyond) through the park today and it was filled with beautiful scenery... will like to share some with you...



Nice spot for soccer my brother might say 

Hustle and bustle as always
aah, much better

My Favourite!



It seems I've become a hobbit (without the ugly feet lol)

Saturday 22 October 2011

The Nightmares of my past (Prose)

The nightmares of my past haunt me...

They lurk like ghoulish shadows round my bedside. They mock me, they tell me I'm a failure. They create a presence of cold winter, cold regret freezes my heart. I shiver at the sight of past wrong, feel remorse for the bad I've done.  For the first in many years, I'm humbled to repentance.
  I've caused so much harm that a second chance eludes me, cant think of  excuses because I knew they were wrong, knew the gravity more than those who accompanied me and with more thinking  I take all the blame and burden myself with guilt.
 I wish my past could glide like the autumn leaves that sway in the breeze,  wish they could bury themselves in the heap of snow to be frozen, never to be  melted by the warm summer sun, never to be revisited in the pages of  life. I wish they could be alternatively burnt in the furnace of forget and the dancing skeletons replaced by the white robe of innocence.

Sadly  wishes aren't horses and mistake is a great reminder...

As I curl  in clutched sheets and think of my past, hope gives me gladness and sends the ghosts running, I think of  now. I act...  I let go of guilt.

So I wake from the nightmare of things that were and look to now to dream and obtain a better future.

Saturday 15 October 2011

Yahoo on another level

Sometimes its good to be broke....

when you're broke you know the value of money so you easily walk pass shops and know for sure you don't need the iPhone 4S or the iPad 2 because you already have a Blackberry torch and an iTouch which cater for all your virtual needs (including your laptop, camera, camcorder etc etc....)

I heard a story about an innocent girl who got blacklisted because she was suspected for anti-money laundering (something like that) and the  consequence is she doesn't get to have an account in any UK bank. This poor girl did nothing but follow orders from her employer a.k.a  YAHOO GUY!

she was told her job was to pay money into some one's account through Western Union, she was also told she would be paid a good amount of money for it every week. Hardworking as she was she carried out orders meticulously and ended up being blacklisted.

I was told this story by a friend of mine a while ago and I pitied the poor girl, I also wondered why she didn't see it coming till it nearly happened to me....

you think a girl would learn!

I was seriously looking for a job in my excitement to feel the thrill of working part-time while studying (which I'm sure is not), so I responded to a mail sent to my school mailbox. I accepted the job because the pay attracted me- 160 pounds per week! I did not pay attention to the bracket which said PROBABLE SPAM because I thought it couldn't be coming from my school email. Anyway I accepted the job and was told I would be paid an extra 50 pounds for connectivity allowance ( great u think). I was quite happy that I had finally got a job and was eager to start asap.

The Job: Delivering Packages.....

I know, I know, stupid me right? that just goes to show when one is too desperate for something they probably don't think it over and  damn the consequences ( which could be fatal)

So I got a message saying  950 pounds had been transferred to my account and that I should send it through Western Union to some guy with a weird name, apparently the guy I was to send it to was meant to be the "supplier" and he needed the money to start "packaging". Once I saw that I had a sneaky feeling something was wrong, I mean this guy told me they were an Australian based company who needed packages to be delivered round London not anywhere else. He even sent me a link to his company's website and an employment letter like a proper contract! but I know for sure that one had to be careful when it came to transferring money for a stranger. Anyhow I checked my account to see if the money was there- of course it wasn't...

I told him this, he said I should use out of my money that when the money hits I could take what is mine including the 50 pounds allowance...

Like I said its good to be broke....

I told him I did not have that kind of money, that he should cancel the transfer and give it to me face to face. He said no, that he will cancel the transfer instead.

It was at that point my brain did a reboot and recalled the story I was told! so I went to the bank to report the issue  and they said they would take it from there.

I agree I was not wise but I am happy that I did not have to pay for it and I hope my foolishness will be a lesson to those who receive such emails. Now I think the only job I shall apply for is one that asks for my N.I number and two referees, definitely not a mailing job!

Wednesday 12 October 2011

Stung by the travel bee




 I've been stung by the travel bee and it seems the symptoms are here to stay. I shall start a collection of passport stickers and find myself  in a number of places!
 I hope to visit:

Spain

Greece

South Africa

Kenya

Morrocco

Dubai

Brazil

Jamaica

America

Russia

China

Amsterdam

and many more...

Wish me luck! ;-)

Thursday 6 October 2011

No Kele Kele Love





I like this song by Tiwa Savage, I stumbled on another song by her on my friend princess's blog and  I think she's quite talented. It just sums up so many things a girl has to know about getting a decent guy and not a play boy.
It really annoys me when girls settle for less because they have been brainwashed to think all men are the same; in this context all men cheat! NO girls, all men DON'T CHEAT!
Don't let them deceive you, its just another way to make it look like what they're doing is okay, ITS NOT!

I believe all men don't and won't  cheat for the following reasons

  • Men are human beings not animals, however most times the indecent ones act solely on instinct, so what are you doing with him? go for guys who reason, guys that think, guys that are smart! in this sense I mean guys that no matter how many naked women they see they are not triggered in any way because they know what they want and are not interested in the physical, that's why he chose you!
  • Men have emotions too, I strongly believe if a guy loves you he would not cheat on you no matter how many guys try to prove you wrong. Many guys say that its not just love that can keep a guy from cheating, there might be other factors but it is very possible to say its a strong reason to be faithful because when you love someone your happiness lies in knowing the person better, being with the person and making the person happy. So there won't be time for him to think about how to meet Lara at the parking lot at night.
  • Guys who say they love you and still cheat are just highly in-disciplined, that's just it! they lack self control and you dont deserve to be with such a man. If you are dating someone who is in-disciplined be ready to hear all sorts of stories.
  • A guy most possibly wont cheat if he is decent, preferably God-fearing and in my opinion that's the best kind of man to date because he loves God and knows God will give him the strength to overcome his weaknesses and temptations. Also he knows better not to put himself in any situation that would make him lose you and that's showing true love
  • Most guys who say "I love you" easily don't mean it, that's what I know as KELE KELE love. they tell you because they know that is what you want to hear. Dont fall for any guy that finds it very easy to say those words, in most cases its not true.
  • Men like to be loved and appreciated as well. If you have a guy who loves you and shows it please show him love and attention, dont frustrate him to cheat. In my opinion they wont cheat if they are not frustrated.
  • Men wont cheat if you dont cheat, simple.
Ladies please understand that you don't have to be with someone if you'd end up with one who does kele kele love. Be patient, be yourself and the right guy will come along.

Wednesday 5 October 2011

Hello... I want to play a game

The sick yet amusing phrase "hello.... I want to play a game" gives me shivers and also excitement!

At a point in time I was afraid to watch Saw even if I enjoy watching horrors and thrillers, then recently I summed up the courage and started a popcorn living room Saw night with my siblings and friends. It has been very entertaining so far and funny enough It does have some form of philosophy behind it.
The torture and death of Jigsaw's victims are (according to my sister) sick and twisted, actually I agree but there is also some form of intelligence in them. the character is a very clever fellow and this can be seen in the sophisticated torture instruments

This Doll is so annoying!
The movie as twisted as it might seem does make a few points;

Yeah, be grateful for the life you have, the caring and supporting family you live with (even if you don't have everything you hoped for) or the large bowl of rice you get to eat (even if you wish you had spare ribs more often) or the flat you live in (even if you wish for a mansion). It beats being tied to a metal pole in a smelly bathroom with a tape which says "play me"

Yeah to err is human, to forgive is divine (Alex's quote). It can be extremely hard to forgive but I guess its good to seek divine assistance in that area or you might end up losing yourself in malice and vengeance or worse losing life and happiness. Besides it beats your head being fixed into a heavy metal trap with an unconscious man beside you and a tape which reads "play me"

Just finished the third part and I think it was brilliant! hope the others make sense (think they should stop at the 7th though)

All in all, be grateful for life or you might just find yourself somewhere with a tape  which says "play me"

Sunday 2 October 2011

Baby Blues Part 2

I shall take the pains to type this quite long excerpt from a bulletin that was given to me; it belongs to Precious Life Pro-life training programme. I hope it will further convince you.

ANSWERS TO “PRO-CHOICE” THINKING
1.       The Pro-choice philosophy says “we have the choice to abort a child”

It is a proven medical and scientific fact that the “choice” some people accept is the killing of a person.  Defenders of slavery used this same strategy- “I’m not going to own a slave, but I don’t have a right to tell you what to do”. Abortion is the killing of a human being. The choice is always wrong.
Dr Jerome Lejeune- “Father of modern Genetics”- told the American Senate, “To accept the fact that after fertilization has taken place a new human has come into being is no longer a matter of taste or opinion… it is plain experimental evidence”
Dr Hymie Gordon, Chairman, Department of Genetics at the Mayo Clinic added; “by all the criteria of modern molecular biology, life is present from the moment of conception”.
Dr McCarthy de Mere, Medical Doctor and Law professor, University of Tennessee testified, “The exact moment of the beginning of personhood and of the human body is at the moment of conception
Dr Alfred Bongiovanni, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine concluded, “ I am no more prepared to say that these early stages represent an incomplete human being than I would be to say that the child prior to the dramatic effects of puberty…. Is not a human being”.

2.       The Pro-choice philosophy says, “The government has no right to interfere in someone’s personal choices”.
The government restricts choices all the time. Do you have a choice to steal, to drive drunk, slander other people? Every abortion kills a person who is a unique individual. That is a proven medical and scientific fact. Simply calling something a personal “choice” doesn’t make it right.

3.       The Pro-choice philosophy and abortion industry say “the government has no right to interfere in the toughest decision a woman will ever make”
Well, killing your own child should be a tough decision. If a man were thinking of killing his 10 year old daughter to collect on an insurance policy, it is logical to assume that it would be a tough decision for him to make but that does not mean it should be Legal.



4.       The Prochoice Philosophy says that the government has no right to force a woman to have a child
Can you imagine a man on trial for killing his five year old saying “the government has no right to force me to have a child”? Legally protecting the lives of the unborn has nothing to do with forcing a woman to have a child. Once a woman is pregnant, she has already brought a child into the world; she is already a mother.

5.       The Pro-choice philosophy says “ The government should not be involved in the practice of medicine”
First, telling doctors they cannot kill someone is not practising medicine; its common decency. Second the medical profession and drug industry are the most highly regulated businesses. The glaring exception is the abortion industry which is virtually unregulated. A school nurse can’t give a child aspirin without her parents’ permission but she can take her to get an abortion without her parents ever knowing.

6.       Pro-choice thinking says “ The government has no right to tell a woman what she can or can’t do with her body”
The baby inside her mother is a separate individual from her mother with her own genetic code, blood type, finger prints, brain, beating heart, nervous system. The child in the womb feels pain independent from her mother, can be awake while she is asleep, can be healthy while her mother is sick. The baby in the womb is her own person. By the way, the government does regulate some things we can go with our own bodies. We can’t sell our bodies for sex, sell our organs to people in need for transplants or put certain drugs into our bodies.
7.       The Pro-choice philosophy says “ A woman cannot be free unless she has the right to abortion”
What kind of freedom is it to be able to kill your own child? Abortion is not a sign that women are free but that women are desperate and have been fed a lie.
8.       Pro-choice thinking says” Why should a foetus have more rights than a woman?”
This is the abortion industry’s sleazy way of pitting mothers against their own children. Once a woman has conceived a child, she has brought a new life into the world that is as fully human as she is. The right to life does not depend on size or age but on being a human person. Does a toddler have a greater right to live than an infant? A teenager more of a right to life than a toddler? Does a strong, intelligent adult deserve to have more rights than a handicapped child? If the billion- dollar abortion industry would stop pitting women against their own children and begin to show even a little compassion for the child in the womb, countless women would be saved from a lifetime of pain and regret and countless children would be saved from death.
 1.       The abortion industry and Pro-choice mind-set say “if a woman is carrying a child with a handicap, she should not be forced to have it. Handicapped children lead terrible lives”
People with disabilities are no less human than any other people. They have the same rights to life as a healthy person. Can you imagine a drunk driver who kills a handicapped child saying “he should be let off the hook because the “quality of life” of the child he killed was not up to his standards? Do you really feel qualified to determine the quality of life of another person and then decide if he should live or die? That is exactly what you are doing if you say handicapped children should be aborted.

2.       What about a single mother who just can’t afford another child?
Poverty is no excuse for killing children. What if a woman had four kids and lost her job? Does this give her the right to drown two of them?  To suggest that someone’s right to life can be denied because of his financial status is disgusting. The “poverty deserves death” idea of the abortion industry is another one of its sleazy strategies. Pro-life organisations have opened thousands of help centres for mothers in need. The abortion industry has opened zero; it just makes billions from killing the children of the poor.

3.       Pro-lifers talk about late term abortion as if they were common
They are very common. One abortionist in the USA has admitted to killing OVER 10 000 babies between 24-36 weeks. Another has admitted to committing so many late term abortions, he can’t remember the number. Both of these doctors admitting these statements are available on audio tape.

4.       The abortion industry and pro-choice smoke-screen say “no one can prove when life begins. It’s up to the woman to decide based on her own beliefs”
No modern medical, scientific or biology text says that life begins at any other time other than conception. Life is a continuum from the moment of conception until death. We have different names for the stages of life: zygote, foetus, infant, toddler, teenager, adult, middle ager, elderly, but they are ALL STAGES OF HUMAN LIFE. Can a woman decide that her child is not fully human until she can walk on her own? Would it be OK for her child if it is what she believed? It is a proven medical and scientific fact that life begins at conception. All of your genetic material was present at the moment of conception; nothing was added later. A person is a person no matter how small.



5.       The abortion industry and Pro-choice rhetoric say “Pro-lifers talk about abortion as killing a baby. That is not true. There is a foetus but not a baby”
The word “foetus” simply describes a stage of development of human life. When the person moves from the inside to the outside of the womb, it is called a different name such as infant or new-born despite the biological fact that fundamentally, no change has taken place. As time goes on, the person will be called by different names but at no stage is she more or less human. When they talk about a child in the womb whom they do NOT intend to kill, even pro-choice people call her a baby. But if they intend to kill her, they attempt to dehumanise her by calling her a “product of conception”, “a clump of cells” or “a potential life”. Have you ever heard a pregnant woman say “my clump of cells just moved” or “my product of conception just kicked”? Or has a couple ever looked at an ultrasound of their baby in the womb and said, “Look! You can see the potential life’s heart beating and sucking her thumb”? Nothing is created at birth. It is a person who comes out of her mother and it is a person who is killed in every abortion.

6.       The abortion industry says “The world has a major problem with overpopulation. So how would we feed these children when millions are starving?”
The philosophy that is acceptable to kill certain completely innocent human beings in order to accomplish social objectives is not only the very definition of evil, its irrational and ineffective. In Britain, we are talking about a country of affluence that kills over 600 children a day, mostly for convenience. The number of children in Britain or Ireland who would one day starve to death for all practical purposes is zero. To kill millions of children to keep a tiny fraction of them from being hungry is lunacy.
The children in the world who are starving to death are almost as exclusively in third-world nations where regressive regimes cause pain and destruction through corruption and political disputes. It is a well proven fact that people do not starve to death because of overpopulation or because there is not enough food in the world. The Earth produces more than enough food to feed every man, woman and child. Killing children through abortion won’t overthrow a totalitarian regime; it won’t allow free enterprise in other countries. It won’t improve farming techniques, won’t build roads, and won’t improve food distribution systems. Using abortion as a solution to poverty does allow nations and individuals to pass the buck onto the poor and frees them from their responsibility to help those in need and reinforces a “death-as-a-solution” philosophy that just leads to more poverty and broken lives.

7.       Why won’t pro-lifers do something to help people who are already born?
There are many free-crisis pregnancy centres funded and staffed entirely by pro-life people. Each provides some or all of the following: friendship, counselling, adoptions, and help for mums to continue their education, post abortion counselling and many other free services. On the other hand the billion dollar abortion industry offers one choice: a dead baby!
Pro-life organisations provide real help for mums. They are in it for the long run. They keep in touch with many of the mothers and help in any way they can, even years after the mothers have given birth. WHY? Because these mothers who choose life deserve love and support but even more than that, they become like family. Sometime you should try holding a baby who was saved from abortion and see if you could ever believe in “choice”.
The billion dollar abortion industry and pro-choice mind-set say pro-lifers don’t help women in need. This is a blatant lie. Maybe someone should ask those who make millions from abortion what they do to help society apart from killing children.

8.       Some children lead terrible lives. Wouldn’t it be better if they were aborted? What about all of the children who will be abused because they are unwanted? We need to make sure every child is a wanted child.
Do you really want to suggest we eliminate some child abuse that might occur sometime in the future by executing the potential victims today? That makes about as much sense as eradicating wife- beating by killing all married women. Of course this type of question completely ignores the fact that abortion itself is the ultimate example of child abuse. Since abortion in Britain was made legal in 1967, children have been killed by the tens of thousands, yet child abuse has increased dramatically. If abortion is going to reduce the number of children when is this going to happen? Close to 7 million children have been killed in Britain since 1967. How many more children have to be killed before this plan begins to work?

9.        Abortion must be allowed for rape and incest
Rape and incest are hideous crimes. People who commit them should be punished. Nevertheless, a baby who results from rape or incest is an innocent human being with the same rights to life as everyone else. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Why should we add the crime of murder to these crimes? We should not kill a child for the sins of his father. Killing an innocent human being is never justifiable.

10.   What gives you religious people the right to force a woman not to have an abortion?
A person does not have to be especially religious to say it’s wrong to kill a child any more than you have to be religious to say it is wrong to steal money. In reality, abortion is a civil and human rights issue. Just because so many people are motivated by their religious beliefs to oppose the killing of children through abortion does not make it a religious issue. If the argument is that abortion should be off limits to the law because people with religious beliefs oppose it, shouldn’t everything in the Ten Commandments be off limits to the law; e.g. murder or theft?


11.    The Bible and Jesus never say anything about abortion
The vast majority of behaviours that are immoral and illegal today are not mentioned in the Bible. Jesus did not give us a laundry list of every offence and sin against God. The Bible and Jesus didn’t mention stock manipulation and child pornography, but it is safe to conclude that Jesus spoke against theft and lust. The Bible and Jesus repeatedly warn against doing harm to children, shedding innocent blood, committing murder, etc. The Bible and Jesus are also perfectly clear that God is the Author and Originator of all life from the moment of conception both in the Old and New Testaments. There is never a distinction between born and unborn people, nor is there any different language used to describe them.
The unborn child is always referred to in the exact same manner as the born child. Logically, we have no choice but to accept the fact that God views them as the same and intends for us to treat them in the same way.
Psalm 139:13- You it was who fashioned my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
Luke 1:15- And he will be filled with the Holy Spirit, even from his mother’s womb.
Isaiah 49:1- The Lord called me before I was born, He named me from my mother’s womb.
Genesis 25: 22- The children pressed on each other in the womb.
Jeremiah 1: 5- Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.
Psalm 22:10- From my mother’s womb you have been my God.
Hosea 12:3- Even in the womb Jacob supplanted his brother.
Mt 25: 40- Truly I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my people, you did it to me.
Mt 19: 17- If you would enter life keep the commandments
Exodus 20:13 “YOU SHALL NOT KILL”
JESUS SAID “WHATEVER YOU DO TO THE LEAST F MY PEOPLE, YOU DO UNTO ME”
ABORTION IS THE KILLING OF A PERSON WHO IS COMPLETELY LOVED BY GOD, HAS AN IMMORTAL SOUL AND IS OUR SISTER AND BROTHER.

Precious Life, Making a Difference; Pro-life Training Programme.
http://www.facebook.com/PreciousLife.Ireland

Baby Blues

Since I almost witnessed the birth of a beautiful baby boy I've been filled with joy! just looking at him is more than enough to make me smile, his mother is also so happy and excited at the birth of her first child. Its quite remarkable to observe how he senses her presence and knows when she's near. I could comfort him for hours when he's crying but once he feels the presence of mummy he stops and waits for her to gently place her palms on his head and bottom, lift him with delicacy and place him gently on her arms ready to nurse and cuddle. Honestly that sight is truly enchanting.
However I am  struck with the symptoms of baby blues which usually include depression and heightened emotions and that's because after seeing such a wonderful sight I'm saddened by the number of people who think abortion is o.k.
I have always been pro-life but not really passionate about it till I witnessed first hand the numerous number of women and young girls who troop into the abortion clinic daily and also the number of abortions that take place in a day round the world, quite frankly its frightening!
Some people give excuses that if one is not prepared to be a parent one has the choice to "terminate" pregnancy, issues like the age of the woman (e.g a teenager) and income are usually given as reasons why abortion is o.k. In the first instance I believe if a teenager  thinks she is mature enough to have sex then she should be mature enough to be a mother, after all that's what puberty is all about, our organs develop for that specific function; to house an unborn child so she should also be ready to take responsibility for her actions, moreover society is trying to teach the youth responsibility and strength of character so this is a very good way to do it. In the case of incest and rape like I said in an earlier post ,the government or society needs to take action, the culprit needs to be dealt with accordingly, however one needs to understand its not the child who did the act, the child became a product of the act and is completely innocent. So should one blame the child for the criminal offence?
in the case of income, God always finds a way to help, He has made it in such a way that charities and organisations emerge solely for this purpose, to take care of women who don't have the means to fend for themselves and their child because no matter how one looks at it, the end never justifies the means. An example could be seen from an article I read from an organisation called Precious Life;  if there is poverty in a home of 3 children does it mean the father or mother should kill two in order to survive?
People also say that there are not enough resources to feed the world and bringing children into the world worsens the situation, our world is blessed with many resources and our problem is not lack of resources but mismanagement of resources. If one feels there isn't enough to go round then we should all decide not to waste food and try to manage the resources we have. Tonnes of food are wasted  almost every time so if we manage food resources properly, population would never be a problem.
There are more tangible reasons why abortion is not o.k but these are a few of them. No one is judging those who have had or think its o.k. We are all entitled to our opinions but its very reasonable to try to make one understand that this act kills a human being. No matter the location or the size, the  human foetus has the same characteristics and features as a born baby and same as a full grown man or woman, it will not grow into a dog, cat or plant. So if we all agree that a new born baby is a human being, I don't think its difficult to understand that the baby in the womb is more than just a potential life.
Please think about it. click on the links to read better explanations of this post, I really hope I have been able to convince you that abortion is a terrible act and that it does not solve a woman's problem.