He said... She said

There's one thing I like a lot and that's GIST! it just feels good at times knowing everything about everyone or knowing things people don't know and then going to your Friends and saying "I have gist for you!" hmm... feels great most times. sometimes when I gist with my friends I usually ask myself "what is the theme of this discussion?" to be honest its really easy to start a gossip conversation it just takes a "do you know so and so?" or "I haven't heard from so and so" and the rest is taken care of especially if the third party has been eager to complete the sentence or answer the question for you. Gossiping is one thing we women know how to do very well, we don't need to take a course in gossiping neither is it rocket science to know when someone wants to start a gossip. hmm the guys are not innocent in this issue either o! guys can gossip!!! when I hear guys gossiping its just so amusing because they are very creative about it, they even add extra gestures to make it funny and exciting to hear (lool!)

well... its really cool to gist and all but i have come to realise how empty gossip really is. okay someone did this, someone did that, point one: none of your business! its easy for us to say the bad things people have done to others but we cant quite talk about the bad things we have done which in some cases might be worse! that leads us to point two: don't judge! if we look at it we don't gain anything from gossiping just a little lowering of our I.Q and a display of a bit of immaturity and backwardness. if one has a group of friends and all they do is gossip or its gossip that keeps them together then they are all in trouble! a person that gossips with you will surely gossip about you, there's no two ways about it and one who gossips a lot cant be trusted so the golden rule our mothers always tell us is very useful at this point in time " if you have nothing nice to say about someone then don't say anything at all!" or "what you cannot say to someones face don't say behind his/her back! there are a variety of things to talk about one just needs to be a bit more creative. we can use that gossip time to get to know each other better, talk about ourselves and stuff that can also help increase the bond between friends positively so more bonding less gossiping. (big smile!)

A New Start

 There are some things in this life that we sometimes regret we ever did mostly because of the consequences we faced and especially if one was told not to do it. there are also sometimes one feels discouraged to begin again because one has wallowed in despair and feels there is nothing that can be done. We are all human beings, we are bound to make mistakes but one thing we are also bound to is change. The only thing constant in life is change and that can either transform or destroy a person. One thing we should all know is your mistakes do not define you! they only make you stronger and wiser... when you learn from mistakes you pick yourself up and try again. Ben Carson once said that it is stupidity not to learn from ones mistakes because they are made for you to become a better person!
Sometimes we think back at some things we have done and feel we can never be the same, I think that's not true, you can become a whole new person and a better one at that. take a look at the caterpillar, it looks ugly at first but with time blossoms into a beautiful butterfly!  do not let the caterpillars in your past tarnish a bright and beautiful future! yes you might be ridiculed, yes you might be insulted by people who knew your past, do not be discouraged, it only shows how much you have improved since then and that should give you immense joy!

so never feel like you are too horrible or too bad to change, you can! so as from today reflect on your past, learn from your mistakes and begin again!

6,500 and a bottle of Wine

Sometimes when I drive through and I see police men or any federal officer I am moved to pity. The reason is because most of these officers due to lack of poverty look for ways to extort money from innocent civilians because they are not paid properly by the government. I will give you an example. my brother, my friend and I were on our way to do some charity work during Christmas. apparently I almost ran a red light...pause.... I am not trying to justify myself  but let me explain what I mean here. we were in traffic and the light showed green! I moved the moment before the light turned red and so at the time the light turned red I was already on the move. before I could get to my destination two lasthma officials had already jumped on okada and followed me. I did not even know till they stopped right in front of me. They jumped into the car and started ranting and raving about how I ran a red light, they also complained about the jeep that was in front of me and how he broke the traffic rule (take note they did not go after the jeep oh!) anyways long story short they asked me for money and also took the bottle of wine that was part of the gifts we were to give to charity.  it was such a relief when these two men jumped out of the car but it made me think. they practically forced us to give them money! they looked into our bags and told us to bring all the money we had! they were ready to drain us all in the name of "fine" if it was really a fine why didn't they forcefully take us to their headquarters? instead we were told to park at a corner, doesn't this sound like robbery?
I guess the reason for this is most of these officers are not paid well so they feel they have to force people to bribe them or they have to stylishly steal from people. also they are envious of people they see driving cars especially if it is young people. This is also how some civil servants behave in school. due to envy or jealousy they shout at students and are ready to give them a hard time. It is sad because the frustration from these people are quite contagious and make one scared to even become a civil servant! anyway the moral of the story is:
1. LOCK your doors at all times ( I should have done that). there is no law that says these people have a right to enter your car! whatever they want to discuss they can do so outside your car.
2. OBEY traffic/civic rules so that they would not have an excuse to steal from you.
3. Make sure your car papers are complete and up to date for the same reason as the one above
4. Hide some money! they must not have it all!!! ( my friend was sharp enough! she hid 4,500!)

Dear Future Husband

If I could make my very own husband  he would be “perfect!!!” my own definition of perfect in this case is  a guy who is a bit tall, dark  and with a look that’s gentle on the eyes He would also be very principled, hardworking spontaneous, easy going and caring. Most of us guys and girls have this checklist when we want to date or even get to know someone better and when the person doesn’t meet up we “unconsciously” cancel them out.

In my own opinion one cannot really find a perfect person in this world because we are all human and have our series of imperfections, the best we can get is close to perfection or better still the one that seems perfect to us… sometimes what we think is perfect for us might not be what we should really be looking for.  Most times we judge people by their appearances (I've done it too) and are easily mesmerized by the  attractive ones, sometimes one might not be truly happy in a relationship but would stay in it just because the person one is dating  is physically endowed so now the person is like a “trophy” girlfriend or boyfriend and not for the true sense of the word. If we look at it there are sometimes we fall for the most unlikely people, people who do not get a tick on any item on our list but there is just something about the person that makes you laugh, love to be in the person’s company, someone that makes you truly happy and loves you for you, in that situation you realize that that’s the person you truly care about. Sometimes you get the whole package sometimes some of the items are present and sometimes none are but the most important thing is it is not advisable to date someone because they seem “perfect” to you but because they are perfect “for” you! This simply means if someone loves you for you and you feel the same seize the moment, take it! be happy to embrace the sincerity of the bond, loving the person flaws and all. 

P.S I think you should watch Beauty and the Briefcase... lovely movie.

You Should Have Been There

The cameras flashed, the carpet was red, (of course it was) celebrities from all over. The night was glamorous. Your brother sang, he has a lovely voice, would have told him but you know how cheeky he gets. The play was beautiful. The costumes you made were used. It fit the actors perfectly. Your mum made a few corrections but it was fine. People wept, it was touching and they donated a lot of money. There were also fireworks; they looked like diamonds in the sky and multicolored stars. Uncle Tim killed it this time his fireworks were amazing. Oh not to forget the food, it was superb, tasty to the definition of the word delicious!

You should have seen it, you would have loved it! It was so much fun. Trust the guys to be there drinking and making merry! Kay cracked the stupid joke again and molly finally asked a hard riddle and I as usual laughed to Kay’s jokes and answered molly’s riddle. I also helped a bit and I’ve finally finished writing the script!  O well, we’ll soon be together so you would hear all about it from everyone.

(Sigh!) I miss you so much, we planned this together and you were not there, we made it public and you were not there. It was your idea and you were not there. I wish you were (at least for this one)

Sometimes it hurts when I don’t hear from you and sometimes it feels good when I feel you and sense you feel me too. You are not here and yet you are, I see you in your family, their eyes, the way they talk and how caring they are.

The memories keep flooding in. we laughed a lot, the good times were good and the sad ones too. You taught me many things, you complete me. Wish you came, I laughed so hard! I merried away but you… you were on my mind.

I’ll come tomorrow without a doubt; I’ll buy you flowers and adorn your stone with pearls and diamond angels. I feel like weeping but feel you in my heart telling me it’s ok, it would be fine and that’s all I need, that’s all it takes.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

wow! time really flies! just a while ago we were singing Christmas carols and lighting fireworks!now we are back at work or school wishing everyone a happy new year.
some of us must have reflected on the past year and wondered what this year would have in store for us, others would have made a few new year resolutions. some people say this is not necessary but if one thinks about it it is to an extent. new year resolutions help one plan his/ her time better, think of ways to do things better and  also achieve things better. its like waking up in the morning and getting ready to go to work. you know the previous day you were late because you did not check the water level in the car and as a result it overheated so the next morning when you are about to leave you will take care to check these things or the night before you already do your assignment so that you can submit it on time. its all about planning and we can take it one day at a time, it is usually easier to look at it that way. This year let us strive to reflect and think of the things we can do better. it doesn't matter if it is difficult at first once you get the hang of it you will be fine. HAPPY NEW YEAR!