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Sunday 5 June 2011

Why girls fall for "Jerks"

Through careful observation and a bit of experience I have come to the conclusion that girls like "Jerks" for the following reasons.....
Okay let me define the word "Jerk"
In my own words: A jerk is a guy who has an Ego ten times his size, due to this most things he does are for his benefit and mostly his benefit alone, once he has accomplished his "task" with one lady, he moves to the other most times leaving a trail of broken hearts which he cares less about. He really doesn't have manners and can be very rude. However a jerk is usually very good looking, very friendly and also quite romantic (that is when he is in mission mode) he could be genuinely nice sometimes but its hard to decipher and lastly he could be quite generous ( also mostly in mission mode)
 I think I should define a gentleman, this most girls deserve but most times don't fall for.
In my own words: A gentleman is a guy who is decent and principled, usually quite smart, could also be good looking. sometimes romantic and knows how to treat a lady. often shy or just laid back. When he falls in love its usually genuine but gets his heart broken sometimes by a girl who chooses a jerk over him, however a gentleman could also be quite proud especially if his looks get into his head.

Now, here are the plausible reasons:

1. Girls like affection. It is believed that girls are emotionally "triggered" by what they hear than by what they see, meaning if a guy tells a girl she is pretty she is likely to notice that guy and jerks are very good at flattery! A gentle man might not be quick to give compliments, he might just admire without compliment either because he is too shy or thinks he would be too forward.
2. Jerks are go getters! when they want something they go for it, be it for fun or the real deal. when a jerk is on a mission to get a girl he would be bold and very hardworking. He would find out all the background info he could get on the "subject" and use it to his advantage. Gentlemen are not as hardworking as these guys, in fact they are very lazy! when they see a girl they like, they admire her from a distance or they wait for her to make the first move or they just watch the jerk have her!
3. Jerks are very nice, its one of their irresistible characteristics! they are usually the first to start an interesting  conversation and they are usually fun to be with. They also probably have a good sense of humor. Gentlemen could have a good sense of humor but are not always the first to start a conversation
4. Hmm... jerks have MANNERS! ironic isn't it? however this is usually when they are in mission mode, they would open the door for you, walk you wherever, take you anywhere, carry your luggage, give you their jacket when it is cold... and the list goes on but when they're either accomplished or tired its the reverse. Gentlemen could do this but most times forget to.
5. Jerks reply messages! they reply and frequently keep in touch as well   ( this also depends on where you stand with him) they could call as many times as you want and reply even the silliest of messages! gentlemen don't reply as much as jerks do, they forget its courtesy to reply even the silliest message. Silly in this context  doesn't mean stupid tho (lol)
6. Jerks are quite generous! they are ready to spend and spend till they get what they want, gold diggers beware! Gentlemen spend when necessary.
Jerks don't hesitate to express their feelings, they are very good at this, sometimes too forward but this gets the girl anyway, gentle men don't and usually act very weird to the girl they might fancy, they could even be quite rude (ironic isn't it?)
7. Jerks are cool! they are quite attractive and appealing, they usually have better fashion sense than gentlemen in some cases.

A guy could be both a gentleman and a jerk (in fact there are a lot of this kind) depending on the situation but girls mostly go for a jerk- like guy because he is more expressive, sad isn't it? sometimes a girl even forgets she deserves better but then again the gentlemen are mostly lazy, LAzy, LAZY!

Dear Jerks, your girls deserve better, remember what goes around comes around, girls can be bitches too! (excuse my French)

Dear Gentlemen, please WAKE UP! you don't know what you've got until you've lost it, don't just stand there, GO FOR IT!

Dear Girls, Ladies, NEVER settle for a Jerk! you deserve better, don't worry the gentleman will come around.

8 comments:

  1. OK...do I totally agree with you? No. I believe you should limit jerk/gentleman distinction on intention alone when they approach a girl and not on actions. A 'jerk' to you might be a 'gentleman' to the girl he has affection for, treat you girls the same with his intention to play you being the only difference.
    Sure I agree with you a 'gentleman' might be shy approaching the girl he likes. That is because of what was at stake if he failed to create a positive impression. For instance, a singer is less likely to experience stage fright during a closed-door rehearsal than on the main stage with an audience. A 'gentleman's' shyness might be absent when the girl wasn't around and you would realise it disappeared when the feelings became mutual.
    Now to the writer, sorry about what my specie had done to you. I apologise on their behalf....

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  2. I accept your apology on behalf of all girls

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  3. this is a critical view from a ladies perspective.....agreed with some of your theories dough.can we get a guy to describe a dude?thanks.nice work tho.ciao

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  4. my girl s baybaay!hehehe,loving it

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  5. Read these lines again

    Dear Jerks, your girls deserve better, remember what goes around comes around, girls can be bitches too! (Excuse my French)

    Dear Gentlemen, please WAKE UP! you don't know what you've got until you've lost it, don't just stand there, GO FOR IT!

    Dear Girls, Ladies, NEVER settle for a Jerk! you deserve better, don't worry the gentleman will come around.


    These three lines are so contradicting.
    The jerk knows if not for his effort, the girl would have not even noticed him talk less of giving him the much he got so after his mission, with that thought in his subconscious mind, knowing girls can be bitches too, he moves on counting his collection of broken hearts.
    The Gentleman sees the jerk as a vain individual so he will never want to be like him. The phrase, ‘GO FOR IT!’ sounds like ‘BECOME A JERK!!!’ So what then do you have against jerks if you advice the gentlemen to be like them?
    The last line is not just the most contradicting but incongruous and funny. Dear Girls, Ladies, NEVER settle for a Jerk. That means they can play around with jerks but never settle for them.Who else will give them what they want, the way they want it and when they want it. It gentleman is too timid to talk. Too understated to express himself. When will he come around? After the jerks have gotten all they want?
    WISDOM IS THE PRINCIPAL THING!!!

    Chinedu Obiagwu 23a832e9

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    1. First advice simply means girls should not settle for a guy who acts like a jerk. Jerks can be very good at deceit and girls deserve sincerity. 'Girls can be bitches too' girls too can be deceptive and might even be better at it than guys. The fact a girl is sincere to a guy doesn't mean she's stupid. Him having had a bad experience doesn't mean his next relationship would be like that.

      GO FOR IT! simply means GO GET HER! dont wait for the girl to express her feelings towards you. Girls like men who are assertive and are brave enough to even face rejection by a girl and jerks are very good at that. So the moral of the story is be confident but not for the reasons the jerk does.

      NEVER SETTLE FOR A JERK simply means dont date a jerk. It doesn't indicate play around in any way. You can have a jerk as a friend doesn't mean you're playing around with him.

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  6. I believe the Onus lies on the girls/ladies/women, if they can differentiate between Jerks and Nice guys, in the end everyone ends up with whom they deserve, I'll advice the Nice guys to remain Nice, the jerks to continue being jerks and the ladies should continue believing in fairytails until they are ready to wake up from heartbreaks... :) for those who want to debate via bb groups on issues like this feel free to ping 22e13e95

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  7. Yall have any for guys taking the hoes over the good ones??

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